With respect to secondary losses

The notion of secondary losses has resonated at times, particularly when I think of one who has been ill regaining strength and regretting the loss of their caregiver’s attention.  When I was a child I revelled in having the flu; it was the only time my mother seemed to like me much at all.  In the EMDR coursework I am doing now today I came up against my own resistance to healing in the recognition of the simple fact that staying angry prevents me from being scared of the fact that she is aging and will one day die.  The first connection, that it gives me distance, was made in class.  The second connection was later tonight.  Processing is quite exhausting.

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