If it’s not one thing, it’s your mother

my parents are coming to visit soon. as ever, their impending arrival gives me energy to clean things we never clean. fix things that are broken. donate things. throw things away. throw things the fuck away. last night while i was sleeping, M sent me a text message asking me questions. my answer is no. no to everything. this makes me feel lighter. the lesson is that you don't have to wait to be asked first. you can exercise your no whenever you want to.